First of all, let me offer my heartfelt congratulations to you and your future spouse! Take it from me, being married is one of the greatest joys in the world. My ten-year anniversary with my husband is coming up in just a few weeks, and I’m one of the fortunate few for whom the honeymoon period never ended. It’s my experience that if you marry the right person, you’ll find the next decade to be one of bliss, even in the mundanity of domestic life. The right person is someone you can unabashedly and proudly be you with, someone who can inspire you to be the best you possible and who will make you feel proud to be you no matter what. If you’ve found that person, this article is for you!
If you haven’t found that person, good luck buddy.
Before you can get to your domestic bliss on, you get to enjoy the wedding. The word ‘enjoy’ is doing a lot of heavy lifting in that sentence, and I can personally attest that the stress that goes into planning, paying for, and executing the thing can be excruciating. If we could do it over again, there are more than a few changes we’d have made, and almost all of those changes revolve around where we got married. Finding the right wedding venues can be a nightmare, but it doesn’t have to be. Learn from our experience getting married in Lincoln, NE!
Location, Location, Location
The first thing to determine is where you’re tying the knot. The going joke here is that there isn’t a whole lot of stuff to look at in Nebraska unless you really like flat plains and corn. People who make that joke have clearly never had the pleasure of spending time in Lincoln! If you know what you’re looking for, there are lots of great options for wedding venues. You’re not going to be able to do anything on a waterfront, as there’s not really much in the way of waterfronts to speak of at all here, much less somewhere that can be rented as a place to get married.
The most important determinations are going to be how many people you’re inviting and whether you want the ceremony to be indoors or outdoors. Both have advantages, but my recommendation is to pick something indoors. As you can see here, there are literally dozens of options for both! The problems with outdoor venues outweigh the advantages in my experience.
When I was married, we picked a lovely outdoor venue. It was going to be a small, intimate ceremony in the park, and we were excited. We had an indoor location for the reception, but the main event was outside. We just so happened to pick the one day that had an unexpected torrential rain! We had to retreat to the reception hall to do the ceremony. You’re going to need a backup indoor location if you choose something outdoors anyway; just commit to something indoors just in case.
Don’t Compromise on Style
This may be a little more controversial, but please remember: this is YOUR wedding. It isn’t your family’s, it isn’t your guests’, it’s yours. When we were married, our families made demands that we foolishly capitulated to. We wanted a theme wedding (we’re huge renaissance fair nuts, and we wanted a renaissance wedding), but our families gave us so much grief about it that we ended up changing a lot of our original vision. Out with the lute players, in with the string quartet, playing the traditional Pachelbel’s Canon instead of something from our favorite fantasy movie (Life Could Not Better Be from The Court Jester, in case you were wondering!)
We regret the compromise almost more than anything else. This was our day, and we didn’t stand our ground on celebrating us. If you need help finding a theme you can look at the most popular ones at https://elegantweddingdirectory.com/top-wedding-themes/, but no matter what you choose, make sure that it’s yours. Don’t let anyone else convince you to diminish who you and your spouse are, or what makes you and your love unique. You are wonderful, and your spouse to be thinks so, too. You deserve the perfect wedding, and what that means is entirely up to you two.